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You Ok?

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You Ok?

You ok?

I haven't seen you or heard from you in a while.

I've heard some things about what's been going on from other people but wanted to ask you directly...

You ok?

I've heard some rumors. 

I've heard some sad things about what you're going through and how much they loved & were praying for you.

I've heard some others say some distorted  things about you & your circumstances, making it sound like they didn't really know or understand in the first place what was going on with you.

So I stopped them in their talking about you & wanted to reach out to you directly.

To check in...

To say, Hey. I love you. You don't have to defend, explain or tell me anything if you don't want to share. I just want you to know I will not listen to others about what they think has happened in your life. I know things may look one way but I know better than to believe what I see before I create thoughts and judgements around those.

I'm pretty sure we all know what it's like for people to think they know all about our circumstances & share it with others & the pain that it causes in us.

I can't imagine how hard it's been for you to walk through so many different changes & the deep pain you must feel.

Loss.

Heartache.

Lack of trust.

And the whole mass of emotions connected to circumstances.

Just remember my friend, you are seen. You are known. You are loved & I believe in you!

Oh. And one more thing, not everyone listens to & entertains rumors. There are some of us that set aside those things and pray and ask directly.

Please know I totally understand if you don't respond to me.

I know it may be hard to trust again but in time you will. God will bring wonderful caring, seeing, loving people around you to remind you of those things.

So I just wanted to reach out for a moment and say hi and that I love you.

Love,

Polly

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Before The Monsters Appear

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Before The Monsters Appear

Oh my goodness it's hard to talk about hard things with people!  Right?! Especially people you love because you don't want to hurt their feelings or you're afraid they may get angry at you, say mean things and maybe even leave you. But I have found that if I don't say the hard things quickly they become monsters anyway!

It's those hard things, that when kept silent, start to creep into our hearts and minds. They make our minds run away with other monster thoughts and create High Avoidance Anxiety. (My new diagnosis)

So here are some thoughts for us people pleaser, co-dependent, talk avoiders out there including everyone in-between.

Things To Think Before You Say The Hard Things

1. It's ok to be angry & hurt. But say the hard things in a manner that honors them & you. Don't create a whole new monster!

2. Don't make the hard thing you have to say bigger than it really is. Stick to the point. In other words don't allow other "remember-that-one-time" monsters to join in the convo.

3. State your hard things with words like, "When this happens I feel....."

As opposed too, "What the "bleep" were you thinking!?!?"

Hear the difference? (Please tell me you hear the difference.)

4. If you've been the one to hurt someone by lying, saying things behind their back, not caring for their hearts well and on & on & on...(this might be hard) but GO TO THEM! Tell them what you did before they have to approach you! (Scary. I know. But you got this!) Don't let them carry your hard stuff because it's yours to own not theirs! 

5. Apologize. And mean it. Then listen to them. Seriously...this is the place you will normally want to run away screaming, but don't! Stay put! And truly listen! You can do it!!!

6. Here's the trickiest one... While you're listening...be very attentive to what they are saying. Look inside your own soul and try to feel what they are feeling. Then say back to them what you understand. This can make you very squirmy because you are opening up a level of vulnerability you may have never tapped into before. GOOD JOB! Your vulnerability tells them that they matter to you. 

7. Take responsibility. Own it. Put into words your choices and actions without even the tiniest hint that you might blame them for what you've done. 

8. What you do and the ways you speak after this matter. Words are just words. And words without follow through  create disappointment. 

I'm pretty sure if you start doing these 8 things you are now a RECOVERING people pleaser, co-dependent, talk avoider and everyone in-between.

Monsters are much harder to tame once they're out of their cages. Catch em' when they're small. Lock them up. And don't feed them! 

 By: Polly Wright

Help everyone get rid of the monsters by sharing!!!

Thanks!!!! 

Thoughts? Comments? Email me: Polly@PollyWright.com

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Let's Cherish Together!

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Let's Cherish Together!

Cherished Revised is making a huge impact on the lives of 100's of women in the US who are going through the study whether in a group or on their own!!!

"Because you said yes and shared your story I have been set free from a prison I never knew I was in since I was a little girl. May I too follow your lead God. Bless you Polly Wright. I love you!" Melonie L.

***Did you know 3 of 5 women have been sexually abused some time in their lifetime?***

As the body of Christ we are called to help give a voice to those who have been silenced & give them a loving & caring place for them to heal!

We GET to do this!!! 

I would love to have the opportunity to come and help you launch your next church or ministry wide woman's study!

I realize this can be a scary topic to bring up & I would be there to help you & your ministry have the tools to offer this to your women!

How I'd LOVE to help you

*I will personally train & pray with you & your leaders to help them know how to facilitate through the difficult topic of sexual abuse, strongholds & fears.

*Come & speak to all of your women or church to help launch your study!

*Provide support through the Cherished Journey Community FB group

*Special pricing on Cherished Revised books

I would love to answer any questions or concerns you might have & see if we can partner together to bring healing, hope & God's extravagant love to His daughters!

I would be grateful if you could share this information too!

Together we can help show Christ's love to His precious daughters! 

Please email me: Polly@PollyWright.com - I would love to send you a copy of my book with more information to your ministry or church or small group!

Website: www.PollyWright.com

or getting booking info at: www.PollyWright.com/booking

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Not Just Any Tuesday

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Not Just Any Tuesday

Tomorrow is Tuesday, April 12th, 2016. Maybe you are reading this and that day has come and gone like they all do. What’s another Tuesday in the grand scheme of things anyway.

Tuesday for me is not just another Tuesday.

Tomorrow will be a day in which I will celebrate something that didn’t get celebrated the first time when it happened 3 years ago.

Tomorrow will be an emotionally corrective redemptive day!

Tomorrow I will launch my newly revised book, Cherished: Shattered Innocence. Restored Hope.

Three years ago when I “birthed” the first edition it was extremely emotional and weighty. My story was out there for all to read and now I didn’t have control over who read it. February 6th, 2013, 2500 copies of Cherished were delivered to the garage.

OH! MY! GOODNESS!!!

I can’t believe God actually called me to write this book! To share parts of my story that most people would not even share with their closest friends. Yet it was very clear that He had called me to no longer be silent and be a voice for those struggling until they found their own voices.

I was ecstatic! Scared to death! Excited! Worried! And bunches of other emotions that would just take up too many spaces in this blog. I’m sure you get the picture.

There were many wonderful people who were excited for me though.  So it wasn’t like it went unnoticed. I ended up selling almost 2000 copies of this book over time.

Yet, I never had a book launch.

I was going to. But you know, life happens. Expectations become excuses and then you find yourself saying it’s really no big deal. Right?

Some people told me it was a big deal though. And when they would say that to me I would choke up and cry silent tears. I guess it’s like someone having a baby and no one throws a baby shower to celebrate the birth. I wanted to launch it. I wanted to celebrate it. I wanted to get it into every hand possible so each person could maybe find a glimpse of themselves through my story whether we walked the same path or not. That they would see how God deeply, madly loves them and sees them in any situation. And for everyone to know personally that they are Cherished!

Tuesday.

God always keeps writing our stories. These last three years have been some of the most difficult years I have walked through. I have watched the people I love leave, shut down, get sick, betray, move on, struggle, cry and push away. I have laughed, cried ugly tears, feared, worried, gave up and wanted to call it quits. For good.

And then there’s the parts where God loves through His people who lifted me up, encouraged, wouldn’t let me give up, give in, or quit. And it’s through all of those amazing human Angels that got this revised book completed!

And these amazing people and church rallied and said, “Wanna launch your book and speak on Tuesday April12th, 2016?” And I said “YES!” While everything inside of me was screaming “NOOOOO!!! Don’t do it again! It’s only going to cause more pain and hurt just like last time.”

That is a lie!

And even if I do get hurt like I’ve been hurt before or in new ways that I don’t even want to think about…I will know that God will get me through. Because that is WHO HE IS! Always! 

Tuesday!!!!

OH MY GOSH!!!

This TUESDAY we are going to celebrate in a MASSIVE FUN way!!! There will be worship & yummy treats! I'm honored to get to speak and share what God has been putting on my heart & Cherished books will be for sale with a special book launch price!!! ONE NIGHT ONLY!!!

This night will be redemptive! This night, no matter what happens in the future, we will celebrate the launch of Cherished!  

Because of the people at Cross Timbers Church, Simplicity Women's Ministry and all the amazing people God has strategically placed in my life…I am going to get to celebrate with each of you the true definition of story.

Your story. My story.

HIS STORY!

Click photo for details!!!

Click photo for details!!!

Tuesday at Cross Timbers, whether you attend there or not, you will have the opportunity to sign-up for a small group to walk through Cherished! 

Cherished Revised is all about a journey through story to discover your own. After each chapter will be journal prompts and by the time you have finished the book you will have written the foundations of your own Cherished Story.

If you cannot sign-up for a study at Cross Timbers you can lead or create your own! Included is a leaders guide and Cherished Conversations in the back to use as the questions you ask your small group!

Let's CELEBRATE God's goodness!!!!

 

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