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Silenced

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Silenced

Shhhhh. Do you hear it?

Pause for a moment. Take a deep breath, lean in  & listen closely.

Do you hear the tears falling?

Do you hear the hearts breaking?

Do you hear the confusion & the anger ringing out from all of humankind?

 

The fear?

 

It's deafening when you really listen.

Everyone yells,

"We can no longer stay silent"

But no one knows how to speak anymore.

Our words get caught in the throats of personal, political & religious agendas.

Our eyes only want to see what our minds have filtered through the ages.

And still. The silence is deafening.

Hate draws on fears to strengthen control & desires for someone else to fix our pains.

When it's been the "someone's" we keep looking to...

That end up causing the most pain.

 

Unity is silenced.

Morality is silenced.

Acceptance is given a distorted voice that opens doors to abuse & even more fear.

 

Our discernments are told to be convinced we are liars & haters and that the only way we can fix things is by people who seem to know better so that they can control us.

But things have not gotten better.

They've gotten worse.

 

Shhhhhh. Do you hear it?

Do you remember what that is?

It's mindfulness & self thought.

Its intelligence & prayer

It's Holy Spirit guiding you to think for yourselves & not be controlled by others.

 

It's love & not hate.

It's truth & not lies.

 

Rage feeds rage.

Hurt feeds anger.

 

And we are all pawns until we say

 

No more.

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Before The Monsters Appear

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Before The Monsters Appear

Oh my goodness it's hard to talk about hard things with people!  Right?! Especially people you love because you don't want to hurt their feelings or you're afraid they may get angry at you, say mean things and maybe even leave you. But I have found that if I don't say the hard things quickly they become monsters anyway!

It's those hard things, that when kept silent, start to creep into our hearts and minds. They make our minds run away with other monster thoughts and create High Avoidance Anxiety. (My new diagnosis)

So here are some thoughts for us people pleaser, co-dependent, talk avoiders out there including everyone in-between.

Things To Think Before You Say The Hard Things

1. It's ok to be angry & hurt. But say the hard things in a manner that honors them & you. Don't create a whole new monster!

2. Don't make the hard thing you have to say bigger than it really is. Stick to the point. In other words don't allow other "remember-that-one-time" monsters to join in the convo.

3. State your hard things with words like, "When this happens I feel....."

As opposed too, "What the "bleep" were you thinking!?!?"

Hear the difference? (Please tell me you hear the difference.)

4. If you've been the one to hurt someone by lying, saying things behind their back, not caring for their hearts well and on & on & on...(this might be hard) but GO TO THEM! Tell them what you did before they have to approach you! (Scary. I know. But you got this!) Don't let them carry your hard stuff because it's yours to own not theirs! 

5. Apologize. And mean it. Then listen to them. Seriously...this is the place you will normally want to run away screaming, but don't! Stay put! And truly listen! You can do it!!!

6. Here's the trickiest one... While you're listening...be very attentive to what they are saying. Look inside your own soul and try to feel what they are feeling. Then say back to them what you understand. This can make you very squirmy because you are opening up a level of vulnerability you may have never tapped into before. GOOD JOB! Your vulnerability tells them that they matter to you. 

7. Take responsibility. Own it. Put into words your choices and actions without even the tiniest hint that you might blame them for what you've done. 

8. What you do and the ways you speak after this matter. Words are just words. And words without follow through  create disappointment. 

I'm pretty sure if you start doing these 8 things you are now a RECOVERING people pleaser, co-dependent, talk avoider and everyone in-between.

Monsters are much harder to tame once they're out of their cages. Catch em' when they're small. Lock them up. And don't feed them! 

 By: Polly Wright

Help everyone get rid of the monsters by sharing!!!

Thanks!!!! 

Thoughts? Comments? Email me: Polly@PollyWright.com

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I Made It! (Mostly)

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I Made It! (Mostly)

I was going to write a blog

'Bout how I can't wait for a new year

I was going to talk about hard things

But got trapped in some fear.

 

Instead I looked for a photo

To show how I mostly survived

Still mending broken bones & heart

But dang it! I'm alive!

 

I'm looking forward to 2016

But not blind to think all's new

Just mindful of a perception of starting over

And God's projecting a new view

 

A view of new beginnings

Marked by a brand new year

Some bones my still be broken

But I am stepping out of fear!

 

Happy New Year Cherished Ones!

Love Extravagantly,

Polly

PollyWright.com

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Drama

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Drama

Drama has no boundaries because it’s not about the life-style…it’s about people, their hurts, fears, desires to control or just a desire to be needed. 

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